Dominatrix Fundamentals with Mistress Selene

Contel Bradford
5 min readJan 5, 2022

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So I’m fascinated by the world of kinkdom. What I really enjoy, though, is when I can learn a little something about the ABC’s of the game. Shot out to Mistress Selene for taking the time to enlighten me on some of the more curious aspects of the dominatrix business from the service procurement side.

What lured you to the fetish services business?

Well, I wanted to go do something in the line of sex work. I try escorting and I realized that it wasn’t for me. No valorisation into it. I met a client who was an extreme masochist and I looooved it! I realized that I had a talent for it. Not everybody could do it ! From there I stop completely escorting, I did it for about 6 months and then in 2012, I jump feet first in the world of Domination. I am a self-educated Domina. Now with the years that have pass, I met other Domina that show me the ropes and I have so many subs with different fetishes that my experience grows every time.

Every professional in any given industry has a unique selling proposition. What distinguishes Mistress Selene from other dominas in the game?

Oh, I’m a very strong and Powerful woman, plus I am marginal. No other girls look like me. People look at me and they know I’m the real deal. I’m Powerful, sensual and sadistic. Everything to make you my little sub.

I see you offer a wide variety of session services. How do you go about determining which sessions you want to provide, as well as those to stay away from?

Well, I think you try something, if you like it you continue and Master it. I always have new ideas on how to make beta boys submit to me. When I think of something, I’ll try it out. If it’s good I will add it to my repertoire and if I don’t enjoy it, I’ll stop. It’s pretty easy when you are your own Boss.

What is your most highly requested service? And is there a session type you personally enjoy more than others?

I got lot’s of demand for strap on and sissification. Lot’s of trampling,ass worship, deprivation of the sens, cock and balls torture. I love everything that have to do with pain and humiliation. People choose me a lot cause of my powerful body. So that means, I do lots of face sitting, body crushing, balls
punching, wrestling, and much , much, more.

I guess the good thing about the increasingly popularity and visibility of fetish services is that it gives interested parties a lot to choose from. On the other hand, having so many options can make finding a reliable professional that much more difficult. Do you have any advice that could help would-be clients avoid scams or simply having a bad experience with their chosen fetish service providers?

First, almost every serious Domina will ask for a deposit. If you are too chicken to deposit 60$ to book a session that will cost you 260$ an hour, that sound fishy to me. Look at the website of the professional Domina. Look for reviews if you can find some. Check ads on professional Dominatrix site. Usually, a Mistress that have a professional website, that advertised at every popular site, that have a lot of professional photos, she won’t take your money and run. She have to much to loose, ( her reputation that is). Choose one that appeal to you and ask her some basic questions on your fetishes. See if she do them. After that, you try. If you don’t like her, it’s ok. You can try another one till you find the right connection!

I imagine safety is a major talking point in domina dungeons after hours. At the same time, it’s one of those things that’s equally important for all parties involved. How can clients, in particular, better assure their safety when heading out to partake in fetish sessions?

First, you got to be clean. Very important!!! Clean and punctual. The dungeon suppose to be clean and have no trace of the last session. If you use the toys of the dungeon, it’s important to always put condoms on them. If you want to play with body fluids, it’s the Domina that suppose to tell you if she’s sick or something. At the end, it’s a relation that have to be built on trust and respect. And to have those 2, you need to build that bound by coming to see her often. You will know if it’s the right Goddess, you will feel great and at peace. Yeah, yeah, at peace, even with your balls crush and your nipples getting bite, you will feel a great sense of inner peace.

There seems to be a sort of glamour to being a dominatrix. You’ve got the sexy gear. Servants atyour feet. Like a real life She-Ra, you’ve got the power! Are there any downsides or challenges anewcomer might wanna know about?

Well, you need to go slow and to respect your limits. You will have a lots of crazy demands and sometime , a bunch of money offers to you to do something you don’t totally agree on, DON’T DO IT!!! If you don’t really enjoy doing something, then that’s your limits, respect it. If you want to stay long in this branch of work, you have to know yourself enough to reject some offers. A sub never bargain with a Domina, NEVER!!! You got a lot of cheap mofo and a lot of disrespectful dumb asses.

Stick to your guns, don’t lose time with them. Communicate via email, if they want a session, tell them the price and to send you a deposit. They can ask 1 or 2 questions not more. After you receive the deposit you will tell them everything they need to know. Put all of the informations they need to know on your website. So you can just direct them to it. It’s ok to make mistake but don’t try to make them all. Takeyour time. It’s better to go slowly than to fuck up your name!

What’s the best way for new fans to connect with Mistress Selene?

www.dominatrixselenepain.com

Fanpage: ​onlyfans.com/maitresseselene

twitter: ​https://twitter.com/MaitresseSelene

Instagram: @selenepain13

Videos for sale: IWANTCLIPS: ​https://iwantclips.com/store/494402/Mistress-Selene

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Contel Bradford is a mystical and complex individual. You can attempt to unravel some of the mystery by visiting his author site at countkrewpublications.com.

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Contel Bradford
Contel Bradford

Written by Contel Bradford

A seasoned freelance journalist and author, Contel Bradford is into reading, botanicals, horror, video games, and pro wrestling. Moreover, he LOVES adulting.

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